We have all heard the adage that it’s not what happens to you in life, it’s how you respond that builds character, but I’m here to tell ya that it was nearly impossible for me to respond to conflict in a healthy way before I learned this little trick.
I want to debunk the myth that if you don’t bloom in the spring of your life that your opportunity is lost. Technology has sped up the rate at which we do everything, but that doesn’t have to translate to the way that we, as humans, are expected to peak. I have had the opportunity to meet some fantastic and beautiful souls in this industry that are just beginning the accent to their peak in their fields. Guess what? They aren’t 25. They are the parents of kiddles that are 25.
Failure. I’m thinking about giving myself permission to fail. What, the rest of the world has already done that? News to me. It may be true in Pinterest quotes but I’m not seeing it in the real world so I’m gonna give it an honest-to-goodness, legit effort. Actual permission. Actual failure. Actual forgiveness. Permission to get it wrong (already done) and allowance for a second effort. AND if that effort fails….we start the cycle over again. If the road that I am traveling the second time veers from the road that failed the previous time, I think I’ll be able to keep myself out of the looney bin.
Self-Doubt. When the going gets tough do you get going or do you begin to doubt your ability to make the trek? I have found myself in the pit of self-doubt so many times and, like any good self-help-book-reading-rock-star, I have always pushed away those thoughts (or at least gave the good high school try), but maybe those self-doubts need to get unpacked a little more than I have traditionally made space for.
Truth. Sometimes I am shocked at how much pressure we put on ourselves. I come to the blog today with this enormous sense of overwhelm. This blog has traveled down this crazy road from how-to forum to video-clipped model of the ‘best blogs on the internet’ to an unused and unread mess of words that I approached with dread when I approached it at all. Is this what it’s supposed to be?